Wife vs. Motorcycle

Agony Aunt to the rescue

Posted: 11 June 2012
by Ben Cope

Stressed Out in Philly?

I spotted this column on the Chicago Sun Times and it made me chuckle. I'm pretty sure every couple goes through something similar when one of them gets the motorcycle bug..

Dear Abby: My husband, “Chris,” wanted a motorcycle for seven years. Last year I finally gave in, with the stipulation that he take a safety course and buy a good helmet and riding gear.
Two months later, Chris was in a crash and suffered several broken bones and a concussion. The hospital bill was more than $60,000.

His accident was a reality check for me. Ever since, I have been petrified of losing him.

I have begged him to get rid of the bike. The stress is taking a toll on me physically and emotionally and creating tension between us.

I’m afraid it would be selfish to insist he get rid of something he loves; on the other hand, I feel Chris is selfish for not taking my feelings into consideration. I’m torn between wanting him safe and wanting him to be happy. What should I do?

Yours, Stressed Out in Philly

Dear Stressed Out: If his close call wasn’t enough to convince your husband to rethink his motorcycle riding, and your begging and obvious distress haven’t dissuaded him, accept that short of hog-tying Chris, you can’t stop him from riding.

Chalk another one up for a life on two wheels!

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I think many of us are well aware of this situation. A delicate dance many wives waltz around unless they are a part of the passion. I'm lucky because my wife is, and has been for 20 years. Just saying that she probably accepts riding more, not worries less.

Just remember "Ride To Arrive - your family appreciates it"

Posted: 13/06/2012 at 02:30

I am not married or in any sort of relationship but I do have 3 cats at home who rely on me so I ride well within my capabilities. I hate the thought that I could end up in hospital for a prolonged period or worse, dead and there would be no one to care for those cats as I have no friends willing to care for them and any relatives I have live so far away it would be out of the question for them to come care for my moggies. I think anyone in a relationship and esp. those with kids should think long and hard about their passion for bikes, do they care more for the bikes or the family.

Posted: 13/06/2012 at 12:36

Bike Wins everytime.. My wife used to be into bikes
Before she had a lung transplant..
And therefore knows the score!!!

Posted: 13/06/2012 at 14:29

I have a family and I think I am much easier to live with if I can get out on my bike for a good blast at least once a week.
I don't think my kids would respect me for giving up key aspects of my life and identity just to avoid danger although I do ride with the keen sense of self preservation that has kept me alive so far. Anyway I have life insurance should the worst happen.

Posted: 13/06/2012 at 15:01

Forgot to say that my partner hates bikes and the time/attention/cash I spend on them. But I was riding before we met so she can kiss my shiny leather arse.

Posted: 13/06/2012 at 15:04

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